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The Whole Twuth

It’s something that comes up with astounding regularity – what is a “True” Dom/Domme?

Normally, my first reaction to anyone who claims to be one is to take the piss. I can’t help it. I’m guilty of joking about “twue” dominants or submissives, though I don’t tend to point this at individuals, but at the swaggering twattery of the collective kinkier-than-thou.

I’ve often encountered the assumption that a person can’t be a *real* Top if they don’t strut around in a massive cloud of braying arrogance, shouting as loudly as possible at strangers about their own skills, equipment, and which knots they’re better than everyone else in the entire universe at – and that, of course, someone isn’t a *real* bottom if they dare to speak or get up off the floor, ever.

I’ve often been accused of not being a TRUE DOMME. This is because I also do it as a job, but mostly because I’m very much aware of my flaws and insecurities, so speak of my own deity, superiority, and general Queen-of-the-World status with my tongue wedged firmly, and obviously, in my cheek. Also, beyond my bluster and wild-eyed, cackling violence, I am aware that my subs are still real people.

It is possible to be serious about BDSM without taking yourself too seriously. I’m sceptical that there could be such a thing as a “true” Dom or sub, as what constitutes “true” is entirely subjective – but if there were, I doubt it’d be the ones who spend the whole time trying to reassert exactly how “true” they are to anyone who’ll listen.

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From Bitch Magazine:

Bitch Magazine: The Supergirls: A feminist response to catsuits?

Lillia Robinson begins her book Wonder Women: Feminisms and Superheroes with the following observation:

The immanence of an alternative and implicitly feminist mythology in the stories of female superheroes is one of the unexplored aspects of these comics, for the general critical silence around the comics is only deepened when it comes to feminist criticism, which has produced even less study of the form than the pop-culture mainstream.

I think this uniquely uncritical approach–uniquely uncritical, that is, for feminism, which has rarely hesitated to question most other established institutions and verities–is due to the preference for a heroic icon over an understanding of how the representation of such an icon derives from and serves–as well as challenges–the dominant social forces.

Immanence, feminist mythology, institutions and verities, yadda yah….In short, there’s a surprising gap of research, let alone feminist research, on female superheroes from comics. Trina Robbins has turned out some amazing books on women and comics, including one on female superheroes, but she can’t do it alone (and good luck trying to find her work at your nearby Barnes & Noble). That’s why I’m excited about Mike Madrid’s new book The Supergirls: Fashion, Feminism, Fantasy, and the History of Comic Book Heroines not to mention the fantastic online resource he put together to go along with the volume.

From the Supergirls website:

Comic book superheroines bend steel, travel across time and space, and wield the awesome forces of nature. These mighty females do everything that male heroes do. But they have to work their wonders in skirts and high heels.

The Supergirls, a cultural history of comic book heroines, asks whether their world of fantasy is that different from our own. Are the stories of Wonder Woman’s search for an identity, Batwoman and Power Girl’s battle for equality, and Manhunter’s juggling of crime fighting career and motherhood also an alternative sage of modern American women?

The chapters are divided by both different archetypes of female superheroines: “The Queen and the Princess,” “The Girlfriends,” “Sirens and Suffragettes” as well as trends within the comic narratives (superhero moms, superhero sex, and of course, sexy superhero outfits). Madrid’s website has a “Visual Guide” to Supergirls, a great abbreviated reference guide which provides introductions to each era’s supergals, plus briefly places the comics in pop culture context of its time. Seriously—check it out, I got lost for good while somewhere in the Batwoman section.

Things get really exciting in the ’70s!

Although I have nothing besides the sneak peek to go by, it looks like Madrid’s book will be able to fill in the gaps left by the Visual Guide. Hopefully the feminist analysis will suffice, since female superheroes occupy a very specific space that combines empowerment with objectification (so much ass-kicking…so little clothes) and sends mixed messages on femininity (I think this panel of Lois Lane using superpowers to make pancakes for Superman is a pretty good example).

C’mon Lois, there has to be a crime happening somewhere, right?

K. L. Pereira bemoaned the forgotten “feminist” 1940s origins of Wonder Woman in Bitch no. 33 (“Female Bonding: The Strange History of Wonder Woman”), and at the very least Madrid’s book will hopefully bring back the forgotten history of female comic heroes. An excerpt from the first chapter, “A Secret World” starts: “Although the prevalent image of the female comic book crime fighter is that of a sexy nymph in a revealing costume, this was not always the case.” There’s the modestly-dressed Woman in Red, Madam Fatal “the first transvestite crime fighter,” and Red Tornado, aka Ma Hunkel, “…a burly, working class mother who dresses in long johns and a cape, and disguises herself by wearing a cooking pot over her head. Passing herself off as a man, Ma Hunkel stamps out crime in her New York neighborhood, becoming one of the first female superheroes.”

The Red Tornado: Now that’s a second shift!

I’m looking forward to getting my hands on a copy of Supergirls, hopefully it will start some new discussions not just about female superheroes, but their cultural significance in American pop culture, and be able to reach outside feminist audiences. .

..Now when are we gonna get a Wonder Woman movie?!

When Comics and Cleavage Collide [Blogtown, PDX]


Female Bonding: The Strange History of Wonder Woman

Wonder Woman Animated Movie Premieres at New York Comic Con… And It’s Actually Pretty Wonderrific

Adventures in Feministory: Women’s Comics of the ’70s and ’80s

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